tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-508842426900947024.post255931904242066482..comments2023-10-02T07:20:34.425-07:00Comments on Otto Fong in RI: Can Gay Relationships Last?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-508842426900947024.post-51377588112998954162010-07-26T08:18:03.477-07:002010-07-26T08:18:03.477-07:00I have a long successful life with my girlfriend, ...I have a long successful life with my girlfriend, I don't know anything about gay couples but I just know heterosexual relationships are gratifying, mostly when it comes with sex <a href="http://www.xlpharmacy.com/" rel="nofollow">Generic Viagra</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-508842426900947024.post-74511808145855302032010-03-16T23:15:12.375-07:002010-03-16T23:15:12.375-07:00Out there in the world, straight people are brough...Out there in the world, straight people are brought up on a steady dose of idealism on eternal love: Titanic, Romeo and Juliet etc etc. Yet many, many straight couples have shown that they can have a great life together. Gay people deserve some fairy tales and stories of "happy endings" too - and who's to say some of us can't achieve it?otto fonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13471541364880686086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-508842426900947024.post-5251047762810438142010-03-16T23:10:35.639-07:002010-03-16T23:10:35.639-07:00Hi Adrian, you're right that every relationshi...Hi Adrian, you're right that every relationship is different. What works for one might not work for all. I wrote as a response to views that perhaps long-term relationships might not work for most gays - which I disagreed with. I present an alternative, and I leave it up to the readers to decide what they want in their lives.otto fonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13471541364880686086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-508842426900947024.post-29278950344771725062010-03-16T22:28:24.840-07:002010-03-16T22:28:24.840-07:00I think you misunderstood me. Personally I've ...I think you misunderstood me. Personally I've gone into every relationship hoping that perhaps this time it'll be for the long haul. I wasn't comparing STRs vs LTRs; I was comparing short LTRs vs long LTRs.<br /><br />It's so easy to say, "Aw look at them - aren't they sweet? They've been together 30 years already." Does that then trivialise someone else's 10-year LTR, or even 2-year LTR? Relationships are an evolving process; we shouldn't look at one snapshot in time and judge that because that other couple managed to stay together for so long but mine didn't or hasn't yet, ergo I am incompetent at forming and maintaining meaningful relationships.<br /><br />I think your allusion to Carl and Ellie as the perfect couple belies your idolisation of a romanticised ideal. True, there are couples like that but it's not all honey and roses. I think (and I'm generalising here despite not have established any prior credentials or authority to do so, but bear with me) that cynicism towards relationships among gays arises because we have unfair expectations as to what the ideal relationship should be. We tick off lists of characteristics our ideal partners should have, but fail to come up with a similar list for ourselves. In a way, that yearning for the ultimate partner - the one true person who will complete you and be everything you desire - is a form of escapism, be it from discrimination, from lack of self-worth, from the emotional trauma of a broken family; you name it. The gay community needs to stop sabotaging itself by setting itself up for failure. You can't hope to encourage mature, stable relationships if you speak of sexual freedom and the right to patronise saunas in the same breath. You can't have your cake and eat it.iamwhoiamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09365031775914517302noreply@blogger.com